Since just before my surgery, Tony was a little preoccupied with worrying about my upcoming surgery, so it took his mind off Jennifer for a little bit. Then there was the day of my surgery, Dr Lee sent him and my parents home to wait to hear from him. I am glad he did, my surgery was 5 hours, then I was in recovery for another couple of hours. But they let Tony come into recovery with me, (I think Dr Lee had something to do with that, because they usually don't let family into recovery, and maybe because I used to work there).
Anyways, he seemed occupied with everything that was going on with me, so he seemed to be a little more controlled. Not having his usual breakdowns about Jennifer. And he pretty much stayed that way the whole time I was in the hospital. However, when I was transferred to the rehab hospital things started to change. Just a little at first, he was hoping that while he was home by himself, maybe Jennifer would come to him. She didn't, or at least not in ways he could see. So he was upset about that.
Now, since I came home, he has been very distraught several times. Everywhere he sees Jennifer. I hope this new therapist can help him with that, and help him get the picture of her from that night he found her, out of his head. It's destroying him, because all he keeps seeing is that night.
For now all I can do is reassure him, that Jennifer is ok, she is in Heaven, but also here with us, all the time.
Meanwhile, I hunt for books that might help him, on my Kindle. I have found several that I downloaded samples for each. Now to just get him to look at them...which if I can catch him in a not to being too sad, he will look. He did it before.
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